How about honoring our mothers by not just focusing on what they do or have done for us (guilt trip for those that feel they never do enough) but focus on ways the members can help their mothers throughout each stage of their life. Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. In the mean time, please, PLEASE, dont go hunting the sisters. Maybe, eventually, I will heal and that will change. In honor of Earth Day, you could throw in the topic of Mother Nature also! I only wish my daughter could come in for graduation I am sure we would skip church together that morning! Mark, very good advice IMO. lesson about prayer. 34 Ideas for LDS Sacrament Meeting Talks When People Don't Apologize: Forgiving and finding reconciliation with God Would borrow from Forgiveness + Tribulation, a talk I gave fall 2019. Well give you an honest deal! Sacrament meetings include music, talks, testimonies and prayers. Gospel Q&A: Can Satan Hear Our Prayers? We are confabbing about how to turn the tables on Hallmark. more guilt and more controversy.). My own father would probably appreciate a plant, but fortunately he enjoys cookies too. (did I mention he and his wife were not parents yet?). I was initially surprised he went that way, but I have to say although Ive occasionally heard people say they wish something were did, I heard many complaints every previous year that something was done about what that something was. The first one we did was a modified version of "Teacher Do You Love Me". Only for the second time he also included a segment about how if his wife was a better homemaker maybe his kids wouldnt have such screwed up lives. LDS Hymn Arrangements. Thanks. I wish that EVERY ward had a FD talk on what unrighteousness dominion is, and why it should be the job of every priesthood holder and father to raise sons who understand it and daughters who wont stand for it. It isn't uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. Any Advice? So for over a decade, Ive loved Mothers Day, just because I know it wont end with all of us crying. Mother's Day Singing Time Idea. Why can't we let women celebrate it how they want at home and focus on Christ at church? His explanation was not to offend any sister. Im against handing out plants on Mothers Day. Ohand did you say you had an extra ticket??? I remember long ago a young woman spoke on Mother's Day and described her mother as "the mean mother". Tony, thanks! I think this is one of the most confusing topics for men in the church. From all accounts, her talk was very well received. I actually think its good to celebrate both Mothers and Fathers Days with the caveat to be sensitive to the feelings of those who have difficulty with that celebration. I believe the best thing a man can do is not to love his wife in word, but to help her find and be and become whatever she truly wants to be and become outside of her role as mother. Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes. It is awkward for those who are NOT mothers and I don't think fathers get their due comparibly. I gave a MD talk one year and focused on Emma Smith, Naomi the MIL of Ruth and my daughter who was a young mother at the time. Come on. The music . rockpond She cares about your eternal safety and happiness. Sacrament meeting is the term for a regular Latter-day Saint worship service, usually held each week on Sunday, where the sacrament (similar to communion) is offered to the members of the Church. All Alma 56:47-48. Preparation Print the song pages. It seems like every time theres a church scandaland especially one that concerns moneypeople start arguing that the scandal-ridden church (or even churches in general) should lose their tax exemptions. "We express our love to those in this congregation and our prayers for the victims and their families. I love this. Should we have days for every type of individual? Ere the sun goes down. The best MD talk I ever heard was given by my neighbor. Honestly, considering how touchy this subject is (women w/out kids, abusive moms, separated/divorced men who don't want to be, moms who've passed, etc), I'd focus on Womanhood. My own dear mother, long since gone to her reward, summed up the essence of the perfect Mothers Day talk quite nicely. Doesn't seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused? I was reading about the origins of Mothers Day. In preparation for the sacrament each week, Church members take time to examine their lives and repent of sins. That was the job of the family, and for single sisters, the home teacher. Men tended to speak about angel mothers who bore no resemblance to mine. It has been another hellish week, reminding me of all my faults and short-comings as a mother, all that went wrong for me as a daughter, and it has all brought me a liitle closer to God, who is repeatedly teaching me that one-size-does-not-fit-all, or most or even many. What a nice gift for a Mom..hey, you guys have a great time!! I think mixing it up, at least every other year, from Mother I Love You, is nice as a mom. It demands that the single day of the year that Mother's are celebrated to a holiday that is solely for adult females and no one else. I have to go home right after Sacrament meeting, because the Sisters all bring their flowers with them to the other meetings. Nice meeting. I am on the Speakers Bureau for the Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) and we would welcome the donations too. This ordinance is an essential part of worship and spiritual development. My mother was an ideal, and she is schizophrenic, couldnt cook water without burning the pan, never cleaned a thing in the house while we were children, had rebellious to some degree or another, etc. Think about your message and how it will sound to the entire spectrum of your sisters in the ward. (If you want to see an example, search mormon tax exemption on Twitter.) Some of the stories were simple acts of kindness and some were extraordinary examples of love and sacrifice. My worst MD talk came in the Fast and Testimony meeting the week before in which my father, who was visiting since he no longer lived in our ward, decided to give some incredibly intimate details about his divorce and why he blamed it on several of his children, but not others. Id also like a break from a poem in the EFMormons which says that no painting, no book, no song penned by a mother could be as great as a worSocrates by their children in the future, so spending your time raising the next generation is the greatest thing you can do. But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. Please Please Please! I think its terribly sad that growing up Mormon, I never heard anyone make any serious attempt to talk about Heavenly Mother on Mothers Day. This reflects a very different image than the one we portray to the world about our values and what we say means the most to us. We also have free LDS program covers and printable LDS program covers you can print off at home. Does this mean that finally..a talk could be about our Heavenly Mothers? document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Your email address will not be published. Thanks for clarifying. Mtg. Im grateful for it. Ive decided to see if I can discern consistent reasons why the good ones are good and the bad ones are terrible. They are there, you just have to do a little digging. (Just what mothers need on an already stressful day . The story of Martha and Mary each bringing important and valuable things, even though they were very different. My kids are way too distracting. With a purpose firm and willing, But one thing is for sure, Ill be drawing on much of this. I have been called by God to be there and that is where I should be. I know of no better answer to [the] foul practices that confront our young people than the teachings of a mother, given in love with an unmistakable warning.. Others must be killed or theyll live forever, injuring regular folk. That cost a war pension. I agree Ray. I do think it is easy to understand my point and I appreciate it when others understand my position. We are an outlandishly weird, mixed up bunch of folk. 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They seemed to love the tradition and I never received negative feedback. It is not a bad thing and it might be the one day that young mothers will remember and enjoy the most. At one point they cut down a tree and paraded it into town to symbolize the mother of the Gods (Asherah, anyone?). I know I dont have any say on when the thread closes, but it would be interesting to hear feedback from how each persons respective wards handled MD, and how the people assigned to talk felt their messages were delivered and/or received. Why are women so disenchanted with motherhood when we value it so highly? That we be a great subject for Mother's Day. Scriptural women are perhaps safer :-) And in our ward, the men get cans of Dads Root Beer or Sugar Daddy candies. I went to Sac. I have attended other Christian churches enough to realize why it is much less likely that they have painful mothers day talks. Thank you. It appears that we have adopted the perverted sense of inclusion to such a degree that we cannot mention our gratitude for our mothers and motherhood without "hurting" or "marginalizing" those who are not mothers. Families are good about this but public acknowledgement is hard to come by. Alece, It will easily demonstrate the weaknesses in the position: The logic is faulty. They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. What does it mean when we want to remove motherhood from Mother's Day? Elder Ballard mainly focused on young mothers in this talk from 2008. Just a question here, since I am new to this blog. Geesh! Partaking of the sacrament is a witness to God that the remembrance of His Son will extend beyond the short time of that sacred ordinance. Never heard it, but I would love somethingalong the lines ofwhat we can learn from Christ and his time with women. I don't understand it, but it is your logic. For the injured interceding, I have an aversion to bringing my family's celebration intochurch and causing other women pain. So this year we are setting up tables and chairs in the gym, hauling in meat and cheese and veggies and chocolate, and the Bishop will talk for five minutes and then we will let everybody socialize while I play the tuba for the entire primary. I always had this huge chip on my shoulder about refusing the flowers because I wasnt a mom (I had kids later in life), but my own mother would force me to take it because it was a free flower. I cant quite relate that to Motherhood but maybe he will. May 6, 2017 especially when there are clear re-phrasings and clarifications. Julie B. Beck reminds women what it means to be a mother who knows listing a number of attributes, including the principles of bearing children, honoring sacred covenants, nurturing others, doing less, teaching, and leading. Why does the church HAVE to be a part of it? The "Sacrament Meeting Program" app provides users a quick, easy way to create their sacrament meeting programs. It isn't in every country so I don't know why it has to be in just a few. I could brave baby showers and birth announcements just fine, but Mother's Day cut me to the core. Its impossible to please everyone. Most threads die a natural death. Perhaps the reason so many women have an aversion to an all Sacrament Mtg. I was asked to speak 3 times on MD during my infertility phase. Thank you to everyone! Im also a High Councilor, who always tries very much not to speak in rose-colored platitudes that, sadly, you associate with High Council speakers. So He can be ideal AND real. In this case it will likely be mothers, and the Primary kids will sing, too. Ere the sun goes down. Please add to the possibility of what LDS women are dealing with: they didnt have the best mothers themselves, they are the adoptive parents of mothers who, for whatever reason couldnt be a mothers, (adoptees and foster children or adults that have been in foster care could be particularly vulnerable as well); they work outside the home and love it, they work outside the home and hate it, they cant stand being mothers, the list could go on and on. The responsibility mothers have today has never required more vigilance. The sacrament provides an opportunity for Church members to ponder and remember with gratitude the life, ministry, and Atonement of the Son of God. Im even okay when they hand out plants. They always see what they havent done instead of what they have because they are constantly reminded of what they should be doing. I thought my husband (Sonny) had already posted this, but maybe not, or Im just blinder than usual. Even men who are on diets. They can eat whatever they want, in fact. Primary kids singing, oh, 12 songs, and then someone real standing up and talking about the incredible power of hope, even when we feel that we dont measure up, and the wonder of the atonement and Gods love for us. Im finding actual motherhood so exhausting that I just cant bear to hear about angel mothers right now. So, just an FYI to the LDS people here Non-denominational Christian churches focus EVERY day (especially Sunday) on God/Jesus Christ Generally the take home message (this would apply to mothers day s well) is that we are human so we are sinners and if we accept Jesus Christ as our savior then we can hand him our trials (very difficult to do) but when we dont and we are struggling He still loves us. It seemed to strike just the right tone. could have had us all come to earth as adults, but instead we came as infants needing 24 hour care to survive; there must be something we need to learn from being dependent on parents, and 4) share some motherhood quotes. . Replies to my comments We know very little about HM and HF really. MD is a day I prefer to play hookey, especially now that my mother is currently lost in alzheimers disease. In addition, there are doctrinal and scriptural classes for . "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". It spoke to the special importance of mothers to their children, but also made clear that as with other mistakes, the effects of mothers failings can absolutely be healed by the Atonement. In order to equally celebrate Fatherhood , the males (12 years+) all get Nachos on Fathers Day (served up by the RS Presidency.). In the garden He said, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death (Matthew 26:38). I accidently hit the quote button and so nothing is there..you guys can fill in the blank.. My wife and I will be on an Alaska Cruise. It is good to share personal stories, but be aware that your own family might be abit stranger than you think. Ugh.chocolate and cheescake.and NO TALKS!!! Yes. More often than not, his assumption is correct. I already have felt many of the concerns expressed, and approach this assignment with fear and trembling. I have no aversion to motherhood being spoken of in church. It was the service ofthe sisters that made the talk memorable. One of my talks I focused on Moses and the 5 women at the beginning of his life and the different roles they played: Shiphrah & Puah, the midwives who saved his and countless other Hebrew boys lives, Jochebed his birthmother and what it must have taken to put him in the basket and shut the lid (shes a stronger woman than I am! Latter-day Saint pianist Monica Scott has arranged a touching Mother's Day medley in honor of Stephanie Pope, a mother of five who recently passed away . 1) Peanut butter sandwiches served with a smile tastes much better than the fanciest meal served with a side of stress. I would say that my grandmother was like a second mother to us, but really she was like a first mother. Drunk as he could be. By Not wordingthat well. Integrate how Jesus takes care of his mother's future well being while hanging on the cross with the scripture John 19:26-27. So how does tax exemption relate to churches, and especially churches that [], You are so much more than the worst thing youve everdone., http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2008/04/daughters-of-god?lang=eng, http://dandelionmama.wordpress.com/2012/05/08/this-this-is-what-i-believe/, Inside the UK's Mormon missionary bootcamp - BBC, Former mayor, LDS bishop gets prison for child sex abuse - Salt Lake Tribune, The anti-racist Mormon trying to teach his fellow LDS church members - NPR, Mormon Church fined over claim it hid $32bn of investments - BBC, Linda King Newell, Feminist Scholar of Mormon History, Dies at 82 - The New York Times. Its always the wives. Speakers arent assigned to talk on mothers day, there is no gift, no refreshments, no day off from primary. But I love my mother, and I miss her, so Im hopeful that the experience will be a good one. Gag. On Mothers Day. Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. What would happen, if, at the start of sacrament meeting on Mothers Day, the bishop announced that there would be two separate meetings. Examples? Tracy M posted an amazing video that deals with the general concept of this post in a really insightful way. Or should we just not celebrate anything or any role that a person may fulfill in life? She never got her kids back and they never forgave her, and she died of some incurable stress induced disease. Although the later version of Mothers Day in the US was to honor mothers, it retained its association with peace as carnations were given out as a symbol of peace (white if ones mother was dead, pink if alive). We got there at about 7:30 AM and one of my Aunts had already been there and left flowers for her. I figure maybe in the next life I will be someones Heavenly Mother. As a member of our bishopric, I assigned the topics for this weeks talks, all motherhood focused, and I have forwarded your paragraph with Elder Eyrings quote to each of them. I have seen women leave the meeting in tears, and I know others who have learned, through sad experience, that it is best for them to take a break from church on Mothers Day. A break from the primary room!) However, Uchtdorf also gets women and articulates that better than most. It was an emotional rollercoaster of raised hopes and disappointments. I don't think it bodes well. Love your mother, my young sisters. I like the idea of a simple gift for those in attendance. At least half the ward was so embarrassed for her at this point that they looked as if they wanted to crawl under the benches. I think its the best way to go. I didnt enjoy Mothers Day during my years of infertility, but Ive been surprised that I enjoy it even less now that I have children. Through the shedding of His blood, Jesus Christ saved all people from what the scriptures call the original guilt of Adams transgression (Moses 6:54). The first consideration is that you, the speaker, need to begin with your audience in mind. Thats why youve been my cyber-crush for years. There have been one or two General Conference talks in the last couple of years that briefly addressed that situation. Tell the moms that you'll be playing a game with the kids on Mother's Day and that . It is as if we cannot celebrate anything because if we focus on single day to celebrate one person then we have decimated everyone else. The woman described her family as she was growing up. Sacrament meeting is a time for us to renew our covenants, it is a sacred ordinance. Not at church anyway. See also What to Expect at Church Services. I think Emma and Naomi are very neglected women in our teachings (understatement considering the general neglect). Last year, I did an arrangement of "I Often Go Walking" for the Primary children and our ward choir to perform together. Well, I wont bore you with all the mediocre talks over the years, I will just tell you that the best song for MD from the primary children was Armies of Helaman. Just after she became a beehive, her mother had an affair. There are a number of other conference talks on the subject (righteous traditions, family traditions, etc.). Food is the communication tool of choice for Latter Day Saints. No one tries to probe for subliminal meaning in the choice of Fat Boys. Sadly, though, it probably caused a lot of pain to the listeners. The other auxiliaries are free to do something, its just the bishopric that doesnt. You wouldnt give a talk in a single adult ward about the joys of scouting. I just pray that the spirit can convey the message that seems so exciting in my heart. What does this mean about women? Talk topics could be: - examples in the scriptures (Eve, Ruth, Naomi, Esther, Sarah, Mary, Sariah, etc), - early Saints (Lucy Mack, Emma, Eliza R Snow, Aurelia Rogers, etc), - influence of (teachers, nurses, aunts, grandmas, etc). Then they would close by saying that it was the most wonderful blessing imaginable. It might be that it was a holiday originally conceived by the US Socialist Party and propagated by the Soviets. Can anyone say overdone? I did live in one ward where the mothers always got plants but the fathers always got cookies. Its never the men. Then the clincher, it is only for women to celebrate and they need to be left alone to celebrate it as they demand and see fit. I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that honors Motherhood while also keeping a focus on Christ. But as for now no praise deserved but the praze to the heavenly Father. I know that traditionally it has been men and children who honor mothers. He also discussed the importance of placing motherhood first in our lives but not allowing the pressures of motherhood to sap us of joy. The meeting isnt about me or you, or a missionary, or mother, its about the Savior and His atonement.

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